Smith-Godchaux-Eckles outpourings of any sort, to be shared with other members of the clan.
Sunday, July 05, 2020
Excerpt from Chuang Tzu, Basic Writings, trans. Burton Watson, The Secret of Caring for Life (Columbia Univ. Press, 1964), p. 46-47.
Tuesday, June 23, 2020
Remembering Harriet McClung Eckles, by her granddaughter Nancy Gilbert
Monday, June 08, 2020
A richly evocative memoir of Harry Eckles by his son Robert
Papa
My earliest memories of Papa concern his relationship to his
job. Katherine would begin dripping his
strong French coffee first thing in the morning. Papa took a leisurely, hot, tub bath every
morning. I had access to the bathroom and vividly remember
Papa lying in the tub. Papa was white
skinned, hairy, and had a red cherry mole on his chest Next, he daily shaved off his heavy, black
whiskers. I watched him prepare the
shaving cream, apply it with brush. I
got to play at shaving. He used Lilac
Vegetalis as an after-shave. I could
recognize the fragrance anywhere.
Katerine had breakfast on the table like clockwork. It included at least bacon, eggs, toast,
jelly, and coffee, if not grits, potato cakes, or sausage. Papa sat down to the table dressed for work
in his white shirt, tie, and suit trousers with highly shine shoes. Papa liked to say, “You may not have a
million dollars, but you can sure look like you do.”
Occasionally, I got to go to work with Papa. This included a walk of five or six blocks to the St. Charles streetcar line. The fare was seven cents. It was likely we’d stand. Papa prided himself in being able to hang on to a strap with one hand and read a newspaper folded in quarter sections in the other. The streetcar was noisy and lurched from side to side. The conductor clanged a bell, to clear traffic. He would call out major intersections: “Napoleon (Ave).”, “Jackson”, “Louisiana”, “Melpomene”, “Lee Circle”. We got off in the middle of downtown at the Carondelet Bldg. The Godchaux Sugar Company was on the eighth floor. “Gotcha boy with you, huh, Harry”, said Willy, the custodian, a light Negro, with straight, reddish hair. Papa generously introduced me to all his co-workers. I still remember names like Mallory, Knobloch, Gates, Rheiman, but have forgotten many. I even got to meet the boss, Mr. Charles (Godchaux), my uncle. Papa toured me around the floor, showing me the safe, the key-punch machine and cards, and lofty view from the windows over New Orleans and the nearby Mississippi River. For the most part, I had a desk, pencils, paper, and entertained myself drawing or making paper clip chains, until it was time for lunch. Papa ate lunch every day at Tranchina’s. We walked past a long crowded, noisy bar, before coming to the sandwich counter. A huge pink roast beef was being carved quickly and nonchalantly by a man in a stained white apron. We ordered the rare roast beef au jus on a French bread “poor boy” sandwich. Papa had draft beer and I had Barq’s root beer. I never remember a better lunch. When Papa got home, he would fix mixed drinks to have with Katherine, to close the work day. This is what Papa did for over thirty years.
Papa liked to read the funnies (comics) and read them to me on
his lap. My favorites were “Red Ryder”,
“Prince Valiant”, and the “Katz and Jammer Kids”. Papa says he learned to read,
by reading the comics. He enjoyed books
as a child: nature books by Ernest Thompson Seton, novels such as Peck’s Bad
Boy.
I never called Papa Harry, but children addressing their
parents by first names was considered modern, and Papa and Adele encouraged it
with my sisters. But it never caught on.
As Nancy reportedly said, “Other children had Mama’s and Papa’s, not
Harrys and Adeles. Eventually, I began
calling my step-mother, Katherine, Mother.
I’m not sure what Papa’s expectations were for me, but I could tell he was interested in how I turned out. He once said something like, “I raising you so that you can get along with others (be approved by).” Papa made significant contributions to my growing up; he ushered me through informal rites of passage i.e. my first haircut at Mr. Hubble barbershop on Magazine St., my first 2-wheel bicycle at age twelve, a 26” Schwinn, my 1st shot with his Benjamin pump air pistol, my 1st BB gun, Whamo-sling shot. I think Papa discovered my 1st pubic hair before I did. Papa took me places with him like the Audubon Park swimming pool, zoo, the batture behind the levee to visit with the squatters and watch the river rise, to Goose Bayou to collect irises, and to the sacred halls of the Whitney bank downtown, to meet personnel he regularly met in the course of his job at Godchaux Sugars. Presumably, these were people who might be prospective employers for me. I think Papa wanted me to have job, family, and happiness. Eventually, I’ve become reconciled to these normal, but solid expectations, but not without kicking and screaming.
Written by Robert Eckles, in response from a few questions I had for him.
My step-mother may have had her faults, but “cruel” and “evil” weren’t them. As to why the marriage broke up, as you say, I was too young to know. I am reminded of Rodney Dangerfield saying jokingly, “ I was so ugly when I was born that the doctor slapped my mother.” No, seriously, I was surely affected by the break up, which no doubt started before my birth. It was, I think, economic. Papa, Ma, and Nancy left New York after the crash of ’29, jobless, and Papa hoped to continue his education at LSU in Baton Rouge (Susie’s birthplace). However, he ran out of money, and had to return to New Orleans. This was the straw that broke the camel’s back. Ma left N.O. because she wanted to get away from her family, and getting away from being a “good Jewish wife”. To be back, and dependent on her family economically was too much. She is to have said to her father, “I don’t want your damn money”, and threw the bills in his face. Hearing from you siblings it seems that her relation with bill collectors attests to her disdain for money. Ma fell in love with Bradley, ironically a friend of Papa’s, who taught him about photography, which was Papa’s true passion. However, the 30’s were tough times; Papa worked for Godchaux Sugars the next 35 years. After Terry’s birth, Ma divorced (back then, a scandal) and left with Bradley for Hot Springs, Arkansas. Papa lived in the French Quarter, I believe, near work, for about a year. To complicate the story, he then courted, or was courted by, Katherine Sharpe, who was a practical nurse to the Godchaux family, and nursed Susie with malta fever (?) before Papa and Ma got divorced. When Papa married Katherine, I was 3 or 4. Ma and Papa decided that I would be raised by Papa and Katherine in New Orleans, and so I was. They didn’t ask me, but, hey, the food and climate were good.
Written by Robert Eckles
Sunday, July 17, 2005
The occasion for the that part of the visit (for which I got grant from Berry College) was an article I wrote on Fabre's work, and which was published (is being published--since only the first part has appeared to date) in the Bulletin des Amis.
To any and all other family members who would like to share their own thoughts here, please let me know, and I will post them.
Sunday, May 02, 2004
In those years the first snows would generally fall toward the end of September, at least in New England. It used to get colder than it does now, and it was in the season of those snows that we said good-bye to the Russian wolfhound, and to the cats, who were undoubtedly all called "Kitty-Cat," and to neighbor lady who would take care of them while we were gone. The house we commended to the great white birch that rose, firm and watchful, at the end of the driveway.
These adieux heralded series of metamorphoses. The birch tree would become a palm, tall and slender; the white mantle of snow that draped the frozen earth, gentle waves drinking the sands. My brother Michael and I would exchange our companions in parkas and waterproof boots for others, black and barefoot. The cold, shiny white Formica desks disappeared, and in their place was a lone, wide, old-fashioned dark wood table. Our Bostonian-sounding English gradually faded into the background, hidden behind gentle, rhythmic accent in keeping with that of our West Indian companions. The yellow school bus that picked us up daily was replaced by a gray donkey that we got up on in turn--Michael, Sammy the son of Polly the cook, and I. It always seemed redundant to me that the donkey was named Donkey, like the cats we had left in the care of the neighbor.
Three years had already gone by since our father began working on the book on the West Indies, three years during which we rented a house on the beach in Jamaica with Polly, her son Sammy and her brother Sunshine. Polly took charge of the whole house--of us, the kitchen and the marketing. One day I heard my father complain about her petty theft, and ask my mother to talk to her. But Ma never did it. Sunshine took care of the garden, Donkey and the two roosters. He was a young man, black, as was the entire native population, muscular, and as we were to discover, possessive. There was no doubt that Sunshine was industrious, and was recompensed, in addition to his salary, by the product of the second henhouse, to which he was in the habit of referring to as his own.
The routine of morning toilette in which Polly insisted in combing our hair was the only storm cloud over the horizon of our island life. First it was Michael's turn--a useless task, because his blond hair always looked as if it had been startled into disarray. Then she braided my skimpy blond hair and tied them with a ribbon that matched my blouse, choosing the right color from an endless collection of ribbons she kept in the buffet drawer. And last of all came her own son Sammy. I never understood why she went to the trouble, since his close-cropped hair looked like a black scouring pad.
The daily routine seemed to us less routine than pure entertainment. Especially compared to our life during the rest of the year. After that process was over, we would get on Donkey’s back in strict order and ride to the school, which was in an old English quarter a couple of kilometers from the house. The forty of us kids sat on both sides of the wooden table, grouped by ages in just one room, with just one teacher. We all went barefoot at the insistence of our mother, who did not want us to stick out. Naturally we stuck out anyway.
We would go home on Donkey, too, but with different turns. Polly always had a salad and exotic fruits prepared, because she had her own theory about meat. She said meat should only be eaten (in any form) with special meals, for example on Sundays, birthdays, weddings or national holidays.
One of the many games we thought up was to see who could swim the farthest out from the beach. Polly would watch from the terrace of the second floor to see whether any sharks were coming—although Ma had already told us that if we ran into a shark we were supposed to punch it in the nose, and it would go away peacefully. But Polly insisted that if she saw any sharks she would warn us by signaling from the terrace, and I always felt safer seeing her there.
We didn’t have to wait long to celebrate one of those dinners Polly considered worthy of serving meat with (in this case, chicken). All Jamaica was turned out it in festive attire. It was more than a national holiday. Princess Margaret was making an official visit to the islands. Our teacher limited himself to the teaching of the history of Great Britain, and particularly to the Jamaica’s responsibility toward the Crown. It seemed to us a bit exaggerated, all the fuss, but we were the only whites, the chosen ones to present the wreaths of flowers to the Princess. This sort of festivity ends up spreading to everyone, willy-nilly, and in the end it even made us think we were witnessing a great historical moment, but we were more impressed by the filming of From Russia with Love, which was being shot on the beaches of St. Ann’s Bay, and included in Princess Margaret’s official itinerary.
The entire island was attired for the grand gala occasion. White figures adorned with black heads floated down all the island streets. British flags lapped around the crowds. Endless calypsos were composed about the Princess and her visit. Government House sported a special guard in full regalia, in imitation of the guard at Buckingham Palace.
Everything went according to plan, with the exception of the theft of the teapot from Government House, which inspired even more calypsos. Polly, true to her manias, served us a delicious chicken on the final night of festivities: chicken cooked with tropical fruits, which we were to remember the rest of our lives.
When we got back home the next day, festive colors had faded into the gray penumbra of an American film noir. An old model black Buick with a siren on top completed the picture. Sunshine did not come out looking for Donkey, because the assistant police chief was taking his deposition in the kitchen. On the black and white tile floor a corpse lay sprawled, covered with a blanket. Mother, whining, was sitting next to the chief inspector, both warning us to no avail not to come into the kitchen. We could hear Sunshine telling the police that he killed his sister Polly because she had stolen a chicken from his henhouse. Despite the voices and sobbing, you could hear the silence.
Sammy ran to the arms of our mother, and Michael and I went running out to the beach where we sat cross-legged for a long time looking out over the ocean.
Sharon Smith-Hernandez
Thursday, April 29, 2004
Tuesday, April 27, 2004
Monday, April 19, 2004
Thursday, April 15, 2004
In the cool, cool, cool of the evening, tell 'em I'll be there,
In the cool, cool, cool of the evening, better save a chair.
When the party's a-getting a glow on, and singin' fills the air,
In the shank of the night when the doing's all right,
You can tell 'em I'll be there.
Tuesday, April 13, 2004
The echo that thunders through the calcinated ruins is all that is left
of the world. The wind disperses the empty words from rock to rock.
-That is not the way it was.
-Of course it was. I was there, I heard it all.
These words with no meaning rise above the mountain and bounce back. No one hears them. I doesn't matter. They would seem to be words from a
conversation but the echo disfigures them. They become incomprehensible.
-She told me everything and it was not that way. She should know what
happened.
-She is the affected one even if she wasn't there. I was there.
The words roll along one after another like tumbleweeds, empty balls of
dead weeds making their way along the roads with no cars, the fields with no
cows, along the avenues with no trees. They accumulate and are thrashed
against one another. One story migles with the other within the ruins.
They climb over the walls and fall down the other side. The balls of words grow bigger and bigger as they pile up one on top of the other.
-I don't understand why you refuse to listen, don't you want to hear the
truth?
-I don't refuse to hear what you say. But you only say what you heard and
this is not the truth. I repeat, I was there.
And the no and the yes unite. One word fuses with the other within the now
huge ball which rises, rolls, crashes but does not stop. A big globe full
of empty words, with no meaning, with no obstacle to stop it and no ears to
hear its contents as it rolls along.
-To hear is as true as to see.
-No it isn't. I can hear lies but I can't see them.
The lies and the truth are confused in the world of lost words. A finished
world. The lies are trapped in the cracks of the ruins but the truth pushes
them out. They flow one after the other along the rivers with no fish out
to the sea with no seaweed, where the yes and the no, hearing and seeing and the ball of words are inexorably drowned.
Sharon Smith-Hernandez
Monday, April 12, 2004
Wednesday, April 07, 2004
Hebrew uses the letters as numbers. Thus the letters א, ב, ג, ד, ה, ו, ז, ח, ט, י (read from right to left) represent the numbers 1 through 10. The number 11 is represented as a yod (10) followed by an aleph, thus: יא. Fourteen is predictably יד , but fifteen is טו . Why 9 plus 6 rather than 10 plus 5? Because the combination of letters יה would be the first two letters of the sacred tetragrammaton, the four-letter representation of the name of God that is to be represented (the letters יהוה ). Thus the representation of the number fifteen bears the trace of an invisible passage.
Sunday, April 04, 2004
After the great Susan's Surprise Birthday Party more and more names from my early years are coming back to me. Proper names. Nouns, are they not the solid, the skeletal part of that animal of words that we are? And particularly proper nouns, because their meanings are open, waiting for our personal biographies to fill in the meanings. The county surveyor's side of "Obtuse Road South" was not evident to me as a child growing up there, in Brookfield. As all roads are connected, that that one eventually leads back to 229 Whaley Street, Long Island, the scene of an even more remote childhood, is self-evident yet astonishing. Those memories are situated at different geological depths.
Gordon Hatch, Eric Staib, boyhood friends who lived in the direction of Candlewood Lake perhaps, not far from Danbury. We attended the same school, Brookfield Consolidated, where Mrs. Murphy taught mathematics. I had learned my times table up to 6, due in part no doubt to her technique of hitting you on your quivering extended hand with her wooden ruler if you got the wrong answer, when the school board was forced to get rid of her because of parent complaints. I have no systematic mastery of the rest of times tables beyond 6 to this day.
Friday, April 02, 2004
Michael--thanks for the invitation to the blogging. It seems that it might serve as a worthy supplement to seeing all of the faces together in NYC last month. I loved seeing the Eckles and Smith siblings all together, which is an unfortunately rare occurrence! Being far-flung out here on the west coast, I relish the opportunity to mingle with family members when I get a chance. I wish there had been more mingling time. I look forward to the rumored posting of photos by Annalee on the web!
Yes, BIG CHEERS to Susie and Paul! How nice to have been able to celebrate both the birthday and the marriage. So glad that all three of us could be there. Tomorrow, Molly turns 12. I think I remember being twelve--it was a tenuous time. Molly seems to be pretty happy with it though.
regards,
Victoria Gilbert in Portland
Thursday, April 01, 2004
My big news: I have a job, will begin in August at Jamestown College in North Dakota. I will teach British lit to 1765 and Shakespeare (and lots and lots of writing classes--but possibilities for other lit classes). The school is small, Presbyterian but very non-sectarian, and they like me and I like them. The town is also small, but maybe I will be able to buy a house eventually because housing is quite inexpensive there. This summer will therefore be busy: I work at Baylor until July 6; then I will be moving onto a new adventure and phase of my life. I actually will be closer to Washington and my sons there, and much closer to Hannah in Wisconsin.
Cheers to all.
Becky